Everyone tells us to go to college, get a degree, choose a nice, clean corporate job with good benefits and we'll be set for life...right? I am going to tell you differently.
I know that what everyone wants is to be happy. That may include being wealthy, being in love, being a parent, being superbly knowledgeable, etc... However, does that necessarily mean that you must get a college degree and an office job as stated above? Absolutely not! There are infinite ways to achieve personal happiness and the reason being because there is no one formula that applies to all.
I'm NOT here to say that education is not important, I believe that if you are not learning something constantly, you will lose all the potential capacity for absorbing information and learning which really just means...you will become slower and slower with time in different aspects of your life. To learn is to reach new levels of potential. I will go into that in a later post cause trust me, there is lots to say about it. :)
Now with that being said, I think a lot of folks really focus on getting "educated" in a college/university setting and while I applaud anyone going that route, we can't forget how essential it is to know a skill or trade. There's true joy and fulfillment in learning something that you love to do and you can make a living off of...perhaps even more than just a living. You might even find that you're more passionate about this new skill or hobby than your current profession.
I'm also NOT here to say quit your job and tell your responsibilities they aren't important today! I'm only encouraging all of us to wander off the path that seems safest or most comfortable at the risk of never finding your niche. It's a sad thing to think about never knowing what your calling is. So broaden your minds, try new things(legal things) lol, learn new likes and dislikes, find out your strengths and weaknesses...only good things can come from this. It could be anything that sets your heart on fire and feels right to do.
As always amigos, pay attention to your passions. Hasta la pasta :)
No matter where you wander, there is reason for it.
What is your most desirable end result or MDER? That is the most important question you have to ask yourself anytime you're in a situation and don't have a clue as to what you should do.
Now I can't say that I came up with this myself. I'm pretty sure I read it somewhere and it just stuck. It always seems to work for me whether I apply it to my relationships, work situations, money problems, etc. If nothing else, it will at least help you figure out what you don't want to do. Allow me to explain...
When you're in a situation weighing out different options, trying to listen to both your heart and mind, keep your dignity, not lose everything, avoid hurting other people, etc. etc., it can get overwhelming like everything else in life. That's where this little question can clear things up for you. Of course there may be some very complicated, unique situations in which this won't help because there are so many elements or people involved but for the most part, this works.
It's a simple question to ask. What is your most desirable END result? Meaning, what would be the best possible outcome that you would be happiest with? Now after you figure that out, you do kinda have to take action. Here's an example: If you are torn between whether you should move off to college and separate from your current partner or enroll in a local community college and risk that you guys don't work out in the long run...ask yourself this question. When you decide one way or another, it'll be very clear what you need to do. If you decide that what you want to do is go away to that university and have that real college experience then make sure whatever you are doing is leading towards that! It won't always go exactly as planned but I can tell you that it will take you where you are meant to go.
The reason I think this question is so important to ask is because it doesn't involve what other people may expect or want from you, nor does it give you a chance to consider what can go wrong. It doesn't leave room for you to worry about how likely or unlikely what you want is. All you need to know in that moment is what you truly want to see at the end of it. You can apply this to long term or short term situations and the process will be the same. I can't say that you won't be disappointed at times, or wish you could change some things you did or didn't do but at least with this, you will know you're following YOUR heart, wants, and dreams. How bad can that be? Thanks for taking the time to read this...if you've made it this far down lol. Buh-byeee :)
P.S. if you use this method and it helps, please let me know!
This concept is kind of why I started writing this blog, and what made me want to kick my new YouTube channel into full gear. It is the basis for all that I am currently doing simultaneously.
I had already started and stopped 2 make-up YouTube channels in the past few years, and the reason I stopped was simply because I didn't have enough passion for it, nor desire to edit because it wasn't important enough for me to dedicate some time to doing it. Sad, but true.
Obviously, anything that we don't find important enough isn't going to take any kind of priority on a consistent basis. So there was that.
Now...I currently work a full time job, which has nothing to do with hair or cosmetology or blogging for that matter, but I'm focusing attention on my DREAMS while I still work to pay my bills so that I can take all the steps needed to achieve my best life. That's when I thought of the song "whistle while you work" from none other than the OG Disney movie, Snow White...classic!
To me, whistle while you work means to enjoy what you are working towards. It also means to focus on your dreams while doing what is necessary to make your dreams happen. If you cannot quit your job or school program or whatever it may be taking your time and attention to solely focus on your dreams, then by all means, keep working your 9 to 5. Don't forget to dedicate yourself to your personal goals when you finish your daily duties/responsibilities. Remember what your most desirable end result is...always! <- This question is one that I ask myself anytime I'm making a major decision, it's never failed me! :) I will talk more about that in my next post.
In the meantime, if you hate your job, hate going to class, hate having to stay home to take care of siblings, hate having to go to the library to use the computer because you don't own one...just find the will to whistle. It pays off when you look back at all that you've done, trust me.
Side note: If you literally whistle while you work, it makes things just a tad bit better. I know you've never seen a sad/angry person whistle...cause I haven't. It's just not natural.
Now get back to work! :)
used in reference to a feeling or reaction based on an instinctive emotional response rather than considered thought.
personal courage and determination; toughness of character.
Why are guts so important? Firstly, if you don't have guts(courage) to step outside your comfort zone and reach for extraordinary circumstances, then chances are...nothing extraordinary will happen to you. Secondly, if you don't listen to your gut(instincts) you will likely stray from whatever situation, person, lifestyle, career, experience is most optimal for YOU. Allow me to further explain...
Sometimes, dreams are scary and overwhelming. Not because they are dumb ideas or wrong to want, but because it may seem too massive or impossible to achieve. You may not know even the first step to take towards reaching your dreams and goals, yet that should NEVER stop you from trying! It takes guts to put your current situation which is probably decent or at the very least comfortable and familiar to you, and shake everything up for bigger or better things that you are not familiar with. Even something like going to the gym to use the free weights instead of running the treadmill might be out of your comfort zone because you've never used them or feel intimidated by all the gym regulars. Imagine what you are holding yourself back from out of fear...AKA the opposite of having guts.
Your instincts are your one and only super power on this earth that God has blessed us all with. It's not the same as common sense though...that topic we can touch on another day. The way I see it, our gut is what links our hearts and minds. When you are doing something that feels inharmonious, whether you are "right" or not, it doesn't matter. This is because YOUR gut instinct is very exclusively yours and no one can tell you whether what your gut tells you is right or not. It is up to you to understand what message it is sending you and act on it.
It's when a little kid is at the grocery store and a stranger comes up to them to try to entice them with a treat and now the kid has a weird, sickly feeling that they need to run to their mom-and fast! It's when you're driving on your way to work and you're not sure why but the job-post you saw in search of a dance teacher has been on your mind since you found it a few days ago. Your instinct is in tune with the life you want whether you know you want it or not. It's painted on the unique path that is most favorable to each one of us even though we might not know where that path leads. That's why listening to our gut is SO important and necessary if we want to live our best lives. Buenas noches mi gente! Till next time, Xoxo
I leave this as well for some thought... when you make a decision whether big or small, and you feel a weight lifted accompanied by a feeling of complete peace...that is the universe agreeing with your choice. Congratulations, you have successfully listened to your instincts :)
Fact: Strangely, I LOVE the beach but I'm terrified of deep water!